Are you wondering why on earth he would still be talking to her?
I recently received a question to which I, unfortunately, had to give a very simple answer. One woman asked me:. We began seeing each other after he broke up with his ex-girlfriend only three months earlier. And yes, he probably loves her, too. Or that a guy still has one foot in the old relationship and one foot in the new relationship?
If your boyfriend or girlfriend still talks to their ex, this is how to deal with it
I feel like the trash talking and the flirting is the biggest betrayal of all. I saw the of texts they had exchanged and it shocked me. I would never pursue a man whose ex was in the picture somehow, not because of low self esteem, but just knowing I could do way better. I do not feel comfortable with this as much as I would like to ignore it entirely, like I used to.
What advice would you give to everyone else?
You imply all sorts of motivations about why I say what I said instead of reading what I wrote. You May Also Like. There is only so much waiting for him to set the boundaries you can do. The constant arguing and making up occured and eventually it began to take its toll on both our mental and physical health. I just wish I could believe what he says and stop fretting whether or not he still has feelings for her :.
My boyfriend talks to his ex behind my back (should i be worried?)
He has custudy of his kids but eveytine he sees her he gets into his feelings and barelly talk to me just text me if im ik what do i do? I feel like he disrespects me as his gf. Is it over analyzing to believe such things? But whatever the reason, I think the appropriate thing would be to disconnect their lives as much as possible and move on.
I dont know if hes just saying this to cut me off too in a suddle way but if he is being real a part of me wants to wait until he comes back and makes the decision. I really liked him. Yet I'm afraid of confronting him because i don't want to end our relationship like this. He assured me that it was just friendship and nothing more. I think it is a good thing for exes to wish each other well, keep in touch over major life events, but I have to be honest, a self-respecting woman wants only that.
He has said that in past relationships when things have gone bad that if he has cheated he will lie about it unless he is caught red handed.
Flower White He is playing you he traveled with a female for a month and did not tell you? She only reaches out to him when she feels lonely.
Thank you. And somewhere I doubt whether that was actually the question she meant to ask. Those are the types of questions that you need to ask yourself. Thanks for that article.
Sure, I agree with that. He would say that he wanted to leave me yet he never did. But men like Eric do exist, and very commonly. I had enough. They have had times where they hate each other then times they get along. Torben That is a very good question. When you are in a relationship, you deserve to be the only one of the opposite sex that is needed, confided in, unless it is a friend only and never an ex.
Hi everyone! She texts him every waking moment. You dealt with your feelings of insecurity by breaking up with the girl. His ex girlfriend comes Everytime when I'm around They play together in my presence like hugging each other in my presence His ex girlfriend calls him everyday And I have decided to break up with him It seems they still love and care for each other. It makes me go against my beliefs and integrity.
Is he still in love with his ex? 7 s he is not over her
It was perfectly innocent. We had several problems but they were stemmed from his relentless need to have her in his life… How much is too much?? I do not think they should talk to their ex if the left them why do they have to talk to them I do not agree he shouldn't be talking to any of his ex it is called respect. It has put a wedge in our relationship. If you want to respond to me directly to my address, that is fine since this is a long message.
This goes for any relationship I encounter as well. If you must ask permission to look at his devices. It makes me feel so sad. Eric Charles Thanks, I appreciate that. Even when we met he was even still seeing her!
The earlier you cut your loses the better chance you find the one who will respect and honor your love, trust, devotion and commitment and means what he says not what you want to hear and repeat offend you! Everyone knows the obvious reason that a guy will stay in touch with a former lover: to hook up again.
Ask a guy: when he’s still in touch with his ex
He was married with ex for 15 years and separated for 5 years now. No, he never spends time with me. They werent talking all those years. Honey you are going to learn the hard way. Of course, at the same time, you do need to be aware.
You could have absolutely nothing to worry about. I had been seeing this guy who had just recently broken up with his ex of over a year. I would suggest simply sitting down with him and my boyfriend is talking to his ex him how you feel. J I have a similar situation. At first, I would try to be cool about it… let it go. Can somebody just settle my mind I live with a male friend who I beleieved wanted to be with me but has just upped rooted his whole life to move away frm his as he keeps telling me girl friend of 10 years. He must be quite rich for you to subjugate common sense.
They didn't have a good relationship when they were married but after separate, they became a good friend. I am dating a guy since almost an year. I have a degree in Psychology and I've dedicated the last 20 years of my life to learning everything I can about human psychology and sharing what gets people out of struggling with life and into having the life they really want.
One of the great traps of our time is how wishy-washy relationships have become. He believes this is just a friendship between him and his ex, but I am not sure what his ex thinks about the relationship. Or am I overreacting?
Sonya Schwartz. You live in one city and she lives in another. Where do we draw the lines here? They speak everyday. Amanda Now what if said ex was an ex-fiance that still texts all the time and calls him pet names like babe. Losing a relationship is hard enough. You can see how their daily lives are structured and who their character is. I will definitely be passing this on to those in need, I just wanted to say thank you so much for writing this.
She moved away a few months before I met him, now she is back and he mentions her as just a friend. What can I say? We are almost a year and he has never hurt me or give me reason to distrust him. He said he doesnt know what to expect but he feels my boyfriend is talking to his ex it needs to be done whether its closure or they want to try to make it work. The 7 red flags that tell you if your boyfriend or husband has not let go of his ex-girlfriend or ex-wife yet. I think if he wrote this article, that would be more wholesome and well rounded. Eric Charles To be honest, in this day and age, yes I think relationships need to be very solidly and clearly defined with clear guidelines that both people are happy to abide by.
He said to leave all of that in the past. Just found out that he ended up giving her his and was still talking to her behind my back! Avoid snooping or destroying any trust that the two of you may have. This last response by Tommy made more sense than the Original writer Eric himself. I am 22 years old and have spent the last seven months with a man whom I now consider to be my partner.
But I got upset. Instead, look for these s. Do you know what inspires a man to want to commit? But, I really am struggling and hurting over a recent text that I saw for my boyfriend to his ex of 8years. I got rather insecure so I wanted to know about their friendship.
I never contacted him or called him back. Try to avoid jumping to conclusions here. FLower White Balance is good truth is better :.